— Be prepared for the most amazing love of your life,
because you deserve it —
You have been through a bad relationship.
That asshole put you through literal hell and back, but you survived.
You finally got out of it, and now everything seems to be clearer ,
you have a sense of who you are back and
things are looking up…
Just know that if your last relationship was toxic, terrible, if you were mistreated, talked down to and looked down upon,
it won’t be like this in your next one.
The next person who comes along will literally and metaphorically sweep you off of your damn feet, turn your entire world upside down and make you feel like you have stepped out of your body and into someone else fairytale.
But it’s yours darling.
Embrace it with every fiber in your being, cherish it like it is the most precious gift you have ever received , because when you’ve been through what we’ve been through you deserve all of it.
Some days will leave you speechless, other days will have you on an emotional uproar that feels like you are literally high on life
and cant believe you get to be with someone like them, shit you didn’t even know shit like this existed in real life and outside of those movies you watch, or those hella cute instagram couples you see on your timeline.
But also, sometimes things from that previous relationship you had will trickle in and try to sabotage your happiness.
Something out of the blue might trigger a response in you that you need to go into flight or fight mode,
or start apologizing for no reason when absolutely nothing is wrong in your current situation or relationship.
This is when you have to remind yourself that they are NOT him/her.
I wish I would have known that going through a traumatic relationship had
the same affect as any other bad or tragic thing that has happened in your life.
Your anxiety creeps up on you and panic sets in because that previous person handled certain situations with anger and aggression. Please remember that the new person you are with won’t react the same way. They are not going to snap on you when things don’t go how they are supposed and they are out of your control. You left that person for a reason, there is no reason you should give this or them the energy and satisfaction of thinking that they still have a hold on how you react. DO NOT grant power to these feelings and emotions that could hold you back from healing and moving on.
Take a deep breath, you are fine, you are here, you are loved.
Communicate with one another, do not let it fester up inside of you.
It is not your fault that you have been programmed this way for so long, just know that it gets better, so keep going, keep loving, and never stop working on and loving yourself.
It is the best way to be the best version of yourself for the next one who comes along unexpectedly and treats you
like the queen you are.
P.S,
this was for me, Im the one who needed to hear it.
